Say yes when it is no

Say yes when it is no

They always tell us that we should not be selfish, that we should put common happiness before personal, that we are tolerant, understanding and so on. All that is not bad, since it is good to think of someone other than ourselves. But only when we have also thought about ourselves previously, this comes to the subject, given the constant of some who are faced with the impossibility of "saying no" to everyone, I one of them, and yet, I try, I It costs, and I know it's wrong, but it happens to all of us, hasn't it happened to you?

One day we see ourselves trying to make everyone happy without achieving it with anyone, much less with ourselves, I firmly believe that we have to say “no” when the occasion requires it. Nobody refuses a favor, but I have found that after a time of coming to the aid of whoever it may be, it can be the couple, the brothers, the friends, the coworkers, they all seem to assume that the supreme task of your life that is to say "yes, of course" "of course" "count on me" all the time and that you have nothing in your life to do but live to facilitate theirs, selfish is very much. I know.

I am not convincing you not to be in solidarity with family and friends when they need, for that we are here to help each other. Do you notice that I said "mutually"? It is a two-way street, and although nobody should do something in exchange for something, we also expect them to come to our aid when we need it, and even if we do not need them, if we have plenty of time, if we want to do this or that, there is To set limits, order is a way of managing our life and we are not "bad" by saying "I don't want or can't." Nobody is happy in a situation where you cannot refuse, because you feel manipulated, and that feeling translates into many ways of being that in the end, will end up messing with the relationship you have with those who ask you, they beg you, they demand you.

We must overcome our failures step by step, we must work hard to stop being so condescending that we become bitter to feel that they take advantage of us. Maybe they don't take advantage, maybe they are not to blame, I have convinced myself that it is my fault, for not knowing how to say "no". Not a bad word at all, I have the right to say it when you feel like it, how many times did they say “no”? Surely many times, you still surpassed it. You can bet it, nobody is going to die because you refuse when you really don't want to do something. It is better to be direct and sincere than to look for excuses to avoid the dreaded "no", you save energy and you feel more comfortable with yourself. Check it out!